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~ Difference Between Sexual and Sensual When Curing PE

The Difference Between Sexual and Sensual When Curing Premature Ejaculation

Premature ejaculation is characterized by the fact that it causes a man to ejaculate before he or his partner are ready for it. The actual timeline will vary from person to person, but generally speaking, ejaculation within moments of penetration or even before penetration can be thought of as having a premature one. One of the causes of this issue for many men is that they sexualize sex too much-they are constantly obsessing over the orgasm rather than enjoying the entire experience. If this sounds familiar to you, then looking at the differences between sensual and sexual and basing your experiences on that could be highly beneficial.

 Sexual vs Sensual

Sexual and sensual actually mean two very different things even though they are wound together in sex. However, they are still separate things. Sensual refers to touch; the ability to make someone feel excited, aroused, warm, and content without driving them over the brink. Sensual things aren’t just found in the bedroom; clothing can be sensual, the best chocolate can be sensual… basically anything we find pleasurable can be given this label. Sexual on the other hand refers specifically to something that we find physically appealing; for example, someone wearing sexy clothing or using a sexual position. It ought to be sensual as well, but in many cases, it’s all about getting to the orgasm.

This is where many men who suffer from premature ejaculation become tripped up. In the rush to get to the orgasm, he skips over the sensual parts and ejaculates too soon, causing problems for both himself and his partner.

Adding More Sensual to the Sexual

If this sounds familiar to you, then at least part of the solution may lie in adding more sensuousness to your bedroom play. Indeed, spending a great deal of time teaching men what it’s like to be touched and how it feels and ignoring the sex altogether can be very beneficial.

This is best done with your partner, but it can also be done while you’re masturbating; the theories are fairly similar. The key lies in something called body traces. Body traces teaches you how to receive touch and enjoy it without immediately going to sex and orgasm. Have your partner do things like take your hand and guide it around her body while she tells you that this is sensual, not sexual. Have her tell you where she likes to be touched and then think of those places as just those places. For example, hips are hips, not an instant ‘boner’.

Then have her ask you where you like to be touched. If you don’t know, experiment! Have her avoid the obvious trigger spots and instead explore things like how it feels to be touched in the back, hips, legs and neck. Don’t sexualize it, don’t even have sex. Instead, having these sensual sessions without any sex at all can help you to enjoy the sensation of touch and sight without thinking about the orgasm. In these sessions as in when it actually comes to having sex, the orgasm doesn’t matter. It’s enjoying the build up along the way instead.

If you and your partner think of sex as something sensual and something to be savoured every step of the way instead of as a headlong rush to the ‘climax’, it will be much easier to deal with premature ejaculation and last longer in bed. Plus the whole thing will actually be a lot more fun in the end! Enjoy every moment of the build-up to the climax and work on making that last longer instead of worrying about the orgasm and sex will be a lot more fun.

 

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